#All the Feels…Well, Almost and a Few Announcements

Hey friends!

Just a quick life update. My book launch has been delayed. I was supposed to have my launch party on June 4th but wasn’t going to actually have physical copies for my guests so we pushed it back…to September because Summer is just too nuts. So, September 15th is the Online Launch and September 17th is the Live Launch.

The awesome thing is that with the pushing it back I get to announce both the book AND the podcast rebranding for Guiding God’s Daughters. Excited for it. You will see an invite below for both the Live Event and the Virtual event. So save the date.

The good news is I AM going to have a few awesome things happening before that:

A. I’ll be doing a in-person workshop for those who are local on June 25th from 9-11AM in Niles, MIchigan at Summit Church. Would love to have you join us. Sign up at the link below.

https://summitniles.com/events/2022/06/25/women-s-giving-god-control-workshop

B. Backing this up allows me to invite you to be part of the Book Launch Tribe. What does that mean? It means you get a copy of the book, be part of a Facebook group and help me spread the word about it when it comes out. If you are interested, please email me at mterpschoeller@gmail.com by Friday June 10th to participate.

C. Ask the Experts. I am just about done my first series of interviews for the podcast around topics I discuss in the book. So make sure you have the podcast downloaded from Apple here or Spotify here. I will let you know when that is starting because it is GOOD! It’s called, “Strategies for Letting Go of the Food and Weight.”

Lastly, before we get to the blog…

D. Book Trailer Mini-Series. I’m going to be doing a series of short You Tube Videos for you to watch that will be mini-trailers for the book in June and July on my You Tube channel. So check it out first week of June here.

Okay so let’s talk — all the feels.

It seems that a lot of people are afraid to feel their feelings. So I’m just here to tell you that – you CAN feel the feelings and contrary to what the world is teaching right now — they don’t have to run your life.

Let me expand on that.

So we are coming to the end of May and starting June, which can be an emotional time of the year for so many of us. Things are ending. Kids are moving into new grades. Some are graduating. Weddings are happening. Life is coming into a new season with the summer. It’s just a time of transition for so many people.

The other day I found myself crying in the morning while Ellie and I were getting ready. I wasn’t sure if I was missing my Dad, or grieving for a friend whose son was about to graduate high school. But it was something I obviously had to feel so I just rolled with it.

You know I often joke about how I give people permission to feel their feelings. My friends will say how much they appreciate me pointing out the need to feel your feelings and I’m happy to do it – because I’ve had to learn how to do it myself!!

But here’s the thing – the world wants us to LIVE by our emotions. But that is not a good thing, because your emotions aren’t steady or balanced. They are all over the place. They ride the waves when they come and if we let them run the show we’ll be all over the place and living for our feelings rather than staying steady. 

Let me give you an example in the world. If you watch tv at all, you know that the show This is Us has ended this week. I remember when it first started and everyone loved it because it just gave you “all the feels.” I was happy a show was finally getting real. It addressed family things that many people had never really acknowledged, which is great.

But here’s the thing. I think it kinda drove people to a point where their emotions had to be felt. But, as Hollywood would do – it kinda keeps you there. It makes the emotions like this thing to worship – which is exactly what culture is doing right now – driving people to live for their emotions.

Why? Because God isn’t in it.

On the second to last episode last week the show reposted a couple people’s tweets like “I’m sending you my therapy bill!” I think it’s great people are feeling and starting to work through things. We need healed people in this unhealed earth right now. But — we need people who are really healed, like at the depths – like Jesus healed.

When we’re making our emotions the guides of our life, we can drown in them and there is only one thing we can grab onto that will truly steady us. It makes me think of Psalm 61:1-2,

“Hear my cry, O God; 

listen to my prayer.

From the ends of the earth I call to you, 

I call as my heart grows faint;

lead me to the rock that is higher than I.

For you have been my refuge,

a strong tower against the foe.”

You don’t know there is a rock higher than you when you don’t believe in that rock. That’s why the emotionalism the world pushes isn’t healthy to me because it puts emotions on a pedestal which is dangerous.

FEEL your FEELINGS. But don’t make them the be-all, end-all.

Another example. I don’t know how much you follow the Kardashians and such. But whether I choose it or not my social media feed is filled with their drama. I’ve been watching these two couples – Kourtney Kardashian and Travis Barker and Machine Gun Kelly and Megan Fox. They are these  “emo” couples. 

The dictionary defines “emo” as someone who is “a fan of emo, especially a person who is overly sensitive, emotional, and full of angst, or who adopts a certain style characterized by dyed black hair, tight t-shirts and skinny jeans etc.”

Whatever it is – it’s dark. It’s emotional, and what I’m seeing is that it’s glorifying emotionalism. Drinking each others blood is just not okay and I think what you are seeing in them is a display of the toxicity of putting emotions on a pedestal. Yet, of course-  the world is putting them on pedestals as these couples to emulate. It’s sad to me. But it’s also how the world is.

So, what’s my point with all this? Feel your feelings but make sure you are taking them to the God who can handle them. If you need counseling, get it. But don’t leave it at that. Take it to the Lord.

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You may also be one of those who can’t feel your feelings. You stuff them down with something like food or you run from them with experience. Whatever you do, you try to avoid them. But if you want deeper healing, you’ve got to feel them, and take them to the one who can heal them.  

In my new book, I talk about the obsession with food and weight – how it can just distract us from what God wants to do in us and through us. So we get completely derailed by our feelings instead of driven by God.

I don’t want that for you anymore and I don’t think God does either.

Make sure you sign up for my freebie on the website here to learn more about the book.